In a world that often demands men to be tough, silent, and endlessly strong, there’s an urgent need to pause and remind ourselves of one simple truth: men matter too.
Coming from myself, a woman who has intentionally been the voice and advocate for all things women, women’s empowerment and women’s self care, I thought it was surprising when a very supportive male friend who has always spoke highly of my platform recently asked me, “ so why don’t you ever write for the men, we go through stuff too?”
I thought about that….and he quickly inspired something new in me!
So if you’re reading this, I Thank You because …why not???
He inspired me because he proved exactly the point. Men want voices, they want advocates, they crave resources and conversations focused on their self care & well being too.
Honestly, my first thought was “well because I’m a woman and it’s what I know, it’s what I live and I wanna continue to be a voice to encourage the self care that we need to hear from time to time,” but then my deeper thinking switched on and I thought to myself, “why not? men do matter too…” and this is exactly the opposite of what society reflects and displays to us at times. So I concluded that it would be nothing less than my pleasure to be inclusive from time to time and take a moment to share this safe space with our brothers, our friends, our lovers, our husbands, our partners…our MEN.
For generations, many men were taught that showing emotion is a weakness, that self-care is feminine, and that vulnerability equals failure. But these outdated beliefs have cost us dearly—physically, emotionally, and mentally. I believe that it even has a direct impact on our personal relationships with men, regardless of romantic or not. Because how they show up for themselves affects how they will show up in connection to us. So why not?
I want to bring awareness to that cycle, so at the very least I want to do my small part of contributing to the overall idea that men and their self care is just as important as women and theirs. No one needs it more than the other. As humans, we all have needs, and we all have essential lifestyle changes and mindset shifts we can and must make in an effort to enhance our daily lives and quality of living.
What Is Self-Care, Really?
Self-care isn’t just about bubble baths and spa days—although those are perfectly fine too. By all means, MEN take care of yourself . It’s okay to soak in those magnesium bath flakes, or go to get your feet pampered, and find the best moisturizers for your face and skin too.
But what self care is really about is honoring your needs, setting boundaries, healing from past wounds, and caring for your mind and body. It’s about taking a moment to ask, “How am I really doing?” and being self aware enough to listen to the answer and being intentional about implementing in what you need.
Why Men Need Self-Care
Men face their own unique pressures—from being financial providers to suppressing emotions in the name of “strength.” But burnout, depression, anxiety, and health issues don’t discriminate. Ignoring them doesn’t make them disappear.
In fact, statistics and many different studies show us that men are far less likely to seek mental health support, yet suffer from high rates of suicide and untreated stress-related illnesses. The silence is deafening—and dangerous.
Redefining Strength
Let’s flip the script: Real strength is being in tune with your well-being. It’s seeking therapy when needed. It’s going to that doctor’s appointment. It’s taking a mental health day. It’s saying no when you’re stretched too thin. It’s choosing peace over pressure.
There is no shame in taking care of yourself. In fact, there is power in it.
Ways Men Can Start Practicing Self-Care
•Talk to someone. A friend, a therapist, a coach—your thoughts deserve space. And don’t underestimate the power of the journal Guys, it’s a powerful release.
•Move your body. Exercise isn’t just physical—it’s a mental reset.
•Rest without guilt. You’re not lazy for needing downtime.
•Pursue what you love. Hobbies aren’t distractions; they’re soul food.
•Set boundaries. You don’t have to carry the world on your shoulders. Remember, “No” can be a complete sentence.
•Allow emotions. They don’t make you weak—they make you human.
Men, You Matter.
To every man reading this: You are more than your paycheck. You are more than your muscles. You are more than your silence.
Your health, your joy, your rest, your peace—they all matter.
It’s time we make space for men to heal, to express, and to thrive and not as in the unspoken or behind closed doors only, but out loud, and unapologetically.
Because men matter too—and the world needs you whole.
So welcome to a new category & forum that I’m happy to open, and let’s call it…Men Matter Too.
Until Next Time,
–La’Ray Renee
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